Archives for September 2010

Ask a Feminist

Dear Ask a Feminist,

I also believe in the equality of men and women, but I feel like my divine life plan is to be a stay-at-home mom. This is encouraged by the church, so why do you work?

Sincerely,

Staying-at-home and loving it!

Dear Staying-at-home and loving it!,

As a point of discussion, I think that being a parent is working. It’s more intense than a full time job! When was the last time a corporate lawyer or consultant worked around 18 hours a day for approximately 18 years? No one could afford to pay stay-at-home moms (or dads for that matter) if they were paid what they deserved for the hours and importance of their work. Similarly, many “stay-at-home” moms are also working. They have side projects, writing, reading, creating, etc. all of which are a form of work. As the professional infrastructure becomes more flexible, more and more women are engaging in “work” even though they don’t acknowledge it as such. That said, let me get to your original question. I can only speak for myself but there are many reasons why I choose to work.

1) I’m a better mom. For example, this morning when it was way too early and I was exhausted my daughter woke up when it was still dark and started happily cooing. Most days of the week I throw some toys in her crib and try to catch a few more minutes of sleep in between replacing the pacifier and distracting her with toys. However, this morning I just held her and played. We interacted and laughed and played games and were each uplifted. The reason I was so excited to see her was because I worked last night. My husband cared for her and put her to bed and by the time she awoke this morning I couldn’t wait to see and hold her. I looked forward to it rather than trying to escape it. It is probably not the same for everyone, but for me working makes me a better mom. When I am at home I am more engaged, less distracted, excited to be there, revel in the little things, and cherish my time. When I have periods of not working I get sluggish and take for granted the precious little spirit in my care.

2) This is the Lord’s direction for me. I have always prayed and pondered every decision in my life and along the way I have been led and directed to working. I recognize that many stay-at-home moms followed this same plan and I respect the Lord and personal revelation too much to assume that we all get the same answers. I trust that all women seek out a follow their inspired path. For me, it was recognizing and pursing my spiritual gifts and the desires of my heart. I have unique talents and abilities and I feel like they are being utilized in my current profession. My husband and I have prayed and come to decisions about professions and parenting together which we feel are in line with the gospel and the Lord’s plan for us. Throughout the course of my career I have had many answers to prayer, priesthood blessings, and divine interventions which have confirmed that the Lord is directing me.

3) For practicality. As a new wife and graduate student on my first day in a new ward I received some advice that I will always cherish. A well respected mother and scholar told me, “Life is LONG!” She then told me about all sorts of women. Women who raise their kids and then go search for their inspired career, women who get all of their education and then have kids, women who raise their kids and slowly receive their training simultaneously, women who work from home, share family responsibilities with their husbands, and trade off with their spouse in regard to working and parenting. She also taught me that motherhood, while all consuming, was only one part of your life. Before and after your kids you have a lot of time. What will you do with it? For me, I have found a balance between working and parenting that makes my family happy. Practically, we try to live off the salary from one job so that we are not forced to be a dual-income family and so that at any time one of us can choose to stay home full time. I also feel overwhelming security at being able to provide for my family. For now, it allows my husband to choose a career that makes him happy rather than one just for the money. For the future, if something happened to my spouse, it makes me feel like I would be able to raise my children and provide for them in a flexible schedule rather than having to work a 9-5 job with limited pay. I also found great confidence in being financially autonomous when I was dating. I was able to choose a spouse based on love and inherent qualities without the pressure of financial dependency. For me, working has given me more choices and freedom. (However, I also understand that my family is unique and I have the luxury of a spouse whose job is flexible).

Sincerely,

Ask a Feminist

Reminder: All answers reflect the opinion of the “Ask a Feminist” director and not the entire executive board at LDS WAVE.

Words of Wisdom

“The whole gamut of human endeavor is now open to women. There is not anything that you cannot do if you will set your mind to it. I am grateful that women today are afforded the same opportunity to study for science, for the professions, and for every other facet of human knowledge. You are as entitled as are men to the Spirit of Christ, which enlightens every man and woman who comes into the world (see D&C 84:46).

“You can include in the dream of the woman you would like to be a picture of one qualified to serve society and make a significant contribution to the world of which she will be a part. Set your priorities in terms of marriage and family, but also pursue educational programs which will lead to satisfying work and productive employment in case you do not marry, or to a sense of security and fulfillment in the event you do marry. Education will increase your appreciation and refine your talent.”

President Gordon B. Hinckley, “Words of the Prophet: Seek Learning,” New Era, September 2007, p. 2-5.

Call to Action: National Day of Service Sept. 11

In 2009, President of the United States Barack Obama issued a proclamation stating that each year on the date of September 11, the day would be observed nationally as a Day of Service and Remembrance of those who lost their lives in the World Trade Center attacks on September 11, 2001 as well as for those who served in the days and months after.

In the proclamation, President Obama declared:

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim September 11, 2009, as Patriot Day and National Day of Service and Remembrance. I call upon all departments, agencies, and instrumentalities of the United States to display the flag of the United States at half-staff on Patriot Day and National Day of Service and Remembrance in honor of the individuals who lost their lives as a result of the terrorist attacks against the United States that occurred on September 11, 2001. I invite the Governors of the United States and the Commonwealth of Puerto Rico and interested organizations and individuals to join in this observance. I call upon the people of the United States to participate in community service in honor of those our Nation lost, to observe this day with other ceremonies and activities, including remembrance services, and to observe a moment of silence beginning at 8:46 a.m. eastern daylight time to honor the innocent victims who perished as a result of the terrorist attacks of September 11, 2001.

In deference to this call and in the spirit of service, WAVE is issuing its first Women’s Service Mission Call to Action. This Saturday, September 11, please join members of your communities, ward, stakes and families in acts of service in your community.

My stake in Seattle will be participating in the Northwest Day of Service where we will be planting trees and landscaping at a local park. If you already have plans to serve, share them with us on our facebook page.

If you need help finding opportunities in your area to serve, you can search at www.serve.gov and www.911DayofService.org. Many organizations have listed volunteer opportunities on these sites to help mobilize the American people in heeding the president’s call.

You can also organize your family and neighbors in trash clean-ups around your neighborhood or at local parks or city streets, or volunteer at food banks or soup kitchens, animal shelters (call ahead because they may be overrun with volunteers). If you have other ideas or want to help others find service opportunities in your area, please visit us at our facebook page and share.

Also don’t forget that you are also encouraged to observe a moment of silence at 8:46 am as well as display an American flag that day.

When you have participated, please share your stories and experiences with us on facebook or email the Women’s Service Mission at service@ldswave.org.

Ask a Feminist

Dear Ask a Feminist,

Someone said you guys were fighting for women to get the priesthood but I haven’t read anything about it on your website. Is this true?

Sincerely,

Wondering

Dear Wondering,

LDS WAVE has never claimed this nor do we advocate for it.

Sincerely,

Ask a feminist

What is the WAVE Women’s Service Mission?

Latter-day Saint women have a legacy of addressing the needs of the sick, afflicted, poor and needy and for adopting a pragmatic approach in solving issues in communities. The Relief Society, in fact, is founded on women’s efforts to help others and is exemplified in the Relief Society Motto “Charity Never Faileth.”

The leaders of the LDS church encourage its members “to be vigorously engaged in the world.”[1] Elder Robert S. Wood of the Seventy encouraged members of the Relief Society to “work with fellow members of community to bring about change” when there are issues in schools, neighborhoods and communities. The LDS people have also been counseled to petition media outlets, support public policies that strengthen families and be engaged in volunteer efforts and employment in education, local government, and charitable causes. [2] [3] [4]

Mormon.org states, “Being a good citizen can be as simple as researching political issues so you can be an informed voter, or organizing a soccer league so that kids in your neighborhood have something fun and safe to do after school. Or maybe you want to take on a bigger problem facing your city or state, like finding ways to reduce crime or improving the local library. However you choose to improve the world around you, you can be confident that “when ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God” (Mosiah 2:17).”

At WAVE, we are working to encourage civic involvement and advocacy efforts on issues that impact women around the world.

Many Latter-day Saint women are already engaged in volunteer activities or employment that address social concerns. Their particular issues of concern may be preventing domestic violence, raising awareness for health issues, seeking equal compensation for women and men in employment, creating access to education for women in developing countries, finding solutions to poverty and homelessness, and being involved in public service. Often the strength of these efforts comes when concerned citizens work together through letter-writing campaigns, signing petitions, joining with organizations and other citizens working on these issues.

WAVE’s Women’s Service Mission will be a place where advocates can come together around certain issues that they share an interest in. Consider it a clearinghouse of current civic involvement opportunities of interest to Latter-day Saint women. If you are looking to raise awareness, find supporters and work together with others on social concerns, you can submit your advocacy opportunity.

Perhaps you are unsure of which efforts you want to put your energy into or find it overwhelming to get started. With the Women’s Service Mission, you’ll be exposed to many different opportunities that will be as diverse as the women of the church. There will be plenty to choose from and you may find that adding your voice to an effort to effect change is easier than you thought.

The Women’s Service Mission will also highlight organizations and causes that support and promote certain public policies, programs or efforts that address the needs of women, families, children and communities. This way, readers will be exposed to and have the opportunity to expose others to many worthwhile and meaningful efforts.

To give you a taste of social concerns that will be highlighted by the Women’s Service Mission, expect to see advocacy opportunities on:

  • Family policies like paid maternity leave and protected pumping breast milk breaks for breastfeeding mothers
  • Preventing domestic violence and providing support to victims of domestic violence
  • Environmental policies and sustainability
  • International campaigns to fight hunger, increase access to education to women and girls, and alleviate poverty
  • Efforts to reduce homelessness and poverty in local communities and on the national level
  • Public health campaigns
  • Campaigns to influence media’s portrayal of violence, advertising and depictions of women

WAVE readers are invited to submit information regarding your own volunteer and advocacy efforts, and to pass along advocacy opportunities that you encounter. You are also invited to write brief articles (250-750 words) regarding why a certain issue needs to be addressed and what can be done about it. Feel free to create your own calls to action and solicit support, involvement and encouragement from other WAVE readers. If an issue is posted that you disagree or agree with, write in and give us a for or against argument. The Women’s Service Mission can host rebuttals and debates on issues which can assist readers in seeing topics from a variety of sides as they formulate their opinions. From time to time, book discussions will be hosted on topics that WAVErs show interest in.

To submit your ideas, articles, suggestions, experiences and advocacy opportunities, email service@ldswave.org.

Remember that there is a diversity of thought among our LDS sisters and that we are counseled to be civil in our political dealings and to follow the dictates of our conscience in public policy and debates.[5] WAVE does not have a political platform or take a stance on the issues posted or shared, but merely offers the opportunities for individuals to work together and be actively engaged in civil discourse. Please be respectful of differing opinions regarding social issues and public policy. Please consider gospel principles when submitting and engaging in advocacy efforts. Explanations for how and why an opportunity has a foundation in gospel principles are encouraged.

WAVE is determined to give LDS women a voice in working for good in the world. The Women’s Service Mission provides ways to do that on a variety of issues affecting women and their families.


[1] “Uphold, Nourish, and Protect the Family,” Ensign, Mar 2009, 68

[2] M. Russell Ballard, “Let Our Voices Be Heard,” Liahona, Nov 2003, 16–19

[3] M. Russell Ballard, “What Matters Most Is What Lasts Longest,” Liahona, Nov 2005, 41–44

[4] Dallin H. Oaks, “Unselfish Service,” Ensign, May 2009, 93–96

[5] Mormon.org “Our Values: Good Citizenship

Feminism 101: What is Mormon Feminism? (Part 1)

What is Mormon feminism?

Mormon feminism is a strand of feminism that primarily concerns itself with how feminist thought and practice intersects with the doctrine and organization of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.

Who are Mormon feminists?

There is no one right way to be a Mormon feminist. If you get together with a bunch of Mormon feminists, you’ll find mothers, professors, lawyers, businesswomen, and even some men. What brings the diversity of these women together is 1) their commitment to the LDS Church, and 2) their commitment to bettering the lives of women both inside and outside of the church.

What do Mormon feminists believe?

Just like there’s no one right way to be a Mormon feminist, there’s no one single thing that Mormon feminists believe. However, here are the beliefs that we tend to share:

*Communities and organizations are stronger when women’s talents are fully utilized and when there are many strong, visible female leaders for young women (and men) to look up to, admire, and emulate.

* Patriarchal organizations where women do not have a voice in important decisions do not allow for women’s unique perspectives on their and their families’ lives to be fully utilized. Communities and organizations are stronger when women’s voices are central in decision-making about important issues. When women’s voices are fully heard, everyone benefits.

*Historically, women have faced sexism, discrimination, etc. While things are slowly changing for the better, there are many ways women still face these difficulties, including in the LDS church. It’s important to continue to acknowledge the ways that women still face sexism and discrimination and work toward change.

Overall, Mormon feminists are committed to working for greater gender equity, both inside and outside of the LDS church. While we often disagree about the best way to do this, all of us want to help improve the lives of women.

Why use the term “feminism”? Why not just say you’re working to improve women’s lives?

Perhaps you may be suspicious of the term “feminism” because in your mind it brings of images of angry women burning their bras and renouncing motherhood. Feminists have done some crazy things over the years, but they’ve also done a lot of good. If it weren’t for first wave feminists, women in this country would not be able to vote. Second wave feminists advanced gender equity in arenas like higher education and the workplace. Third-wave feminism (present-day feminism) is reaching out to the diversity of women around the world, getting involved in issues from sweatshops in third world countries to problems with Western media culture to protecting women from domestic violence. But being a feminist it doesn’t means that we are supporters of only women. Hence, we have also planned to know more about domestic violence against men and measures to prevent it. We call ourselves (Mormon) feminists because we want to be part of the larger movement that is working to better women’s lives around the world.

Later questions to be answered in our feminism 101 series:

*What do you mean by “gender equity”? Do you want to make women more like men?

*Does being a feminist mean that you don’t value the important work that women do in the home?

*How do you define feminism?

About the WAVE Women’s Service Mission

Inspired by the Relief Society motto “Charity Never Faileth” and urged by LDS leaders, WAVE encourages Latter-day Saint women to apply our education, skills and talents to address social issues faced by our sisters and brothers throughout the world.

The WAVE Women’s Service Mission:

  • Invites LDS women to share and engage in advocacy opportunities that aim to protect our world, our children, our families, our neighbors and our sisters in our local communities.
  • Extends compassionate and thinking service to those who are affected by poverty, war and injustice throughout the world.
  • Provides a platform for WAVErs to share their advocacy efforts with others.
  • Encourages WAVErs to become engaged and interested in public policies that affect individual women and families.

Are you engaged in working on a humanitarian or social cause? What social problems are you most concerned about? Are there issues you are concerned about and want to know where to start in addressing them?

Please share your efforts and desires to serve in the comments or submit your ideas to service@ldswave.org. WAVE will post submitted advocacy opportunities as they are received.

Remember that there is a diversity of thought among our LDS sisters and to please be respectful of differing opinions regarding social issues and public policy. WAVE does not have a political platform or take a stance on the issues posted or shared, but merely offers the opportunities for individuals to work together and be actively engaged in civil discourse.

Contribute to Words of Wisdom Quote Project

Our first action-based project at WAVE is creating a book of quotes about themes of gender equality and the LDS church that can be easily accessed and utilized in church settings as a flip book or as an iPhone app. It is meant to be used as a resource for the empowerment of women and the inclusion of their voices.

We love and appreciate our leaders who speak about gender equality and we want to promulgate these ideas throughout our local wards and stakes. Our hope is that by using readily accepted sources about this topic we can reach more traditionally minded members and promote our mission to educate and encourage gender equality within the church.

We feel deeply that women’s voices need to be featured and highlighted. When we hear women quoted as leaders with valuable insights, we value ourselves more.  When we hear these women held up as spiritual leaders, we envision what we ourselves are spiritually capable of. When we see these women acknowledged and appreciated for their insights, we know that we do indeed have important and valued roles to play in the Church.

This is a work in progress, so please send us some of your favorite quotes from men and women about gender equality, female and male roles, divine roles, Heavenly Parents, parenthood, etc. OR your favorite quotes by women on any gospel topic. Please also provide the quotes citation, including: name, date, and source.

Some examples of what we are looking for:
1) Quotes from early Mormon women leaders (Emmeline B. Wells, etc.)

2) Quotes from later Mormon women leaders, both Church leaders like Chieko Okazaki and leaders in other fields, like Laurel Thatcher Ulrich)

3) Quotes from church leaders pre-Restoration (Joan of Arc and Hildegard von Bingen)

4)  Quotes from Mormon male leaders that are empowering (Talmadge about how women have not been given their due, etc.)

5) Quotes from the scriptures that are focused on women’s equality

We will let you know when the final printable version is available. Please send your submissions to: wordsofwisdom@ldswave.org

Sincerely,

Words of Wisdom Committee

An example of content and formatting:

“The whole gamut of human endeavor is now open to women. There is not anything that you cannot do if you will set your mind to it. I am grateful that women today are afforded the same opportunity to study for science, for the professions, and for every other facet of human knowledge. You are as entitled as are men to the Spirit of Christ, which enlightens every man and woman who comes into the world (see D&C 84:46).

You can include in the dream of the woman you would like to be a picture of one qualified to serve society and make a significant contribution to the world of which she will be a part. Set your priorities in terms of marriage and family, but also pursue educational programs which will lead to satisfying work and productive employment in case you do not marry, or to a sense of security and fulfillment in the event you do marry. Education will increase your appreciation and refine your talent” (President Gordon B. Hinckley, 2007, “Words of the Prophet: Seek Learning”, New Era, September).

Calls to Action

In our efforts to advance the cause of gender equality in the Church, we will be issuing calls to action on a monthly or bimonthly basis. The purpose of these calls to action is to coordinate and carry out collective action. When we act in concert with one another, not only will we implement meaningful projects that promote women’s voices and visibility, but our leaders will also have an increased opportunity to prayerfully ponder issues of gender equality in the Church.

We carry out this collective action in the hope and faith that our goals are compatible with LDS beliefs in the divinity of all humans, in the worth of all souls, and that “all are alike unto God.” Moreover, we believe that such action is pleasing to God. As we work towards increased opportunities for women to contribute within the Church structure, we ultimately hope to aid the Church’s retention effort of women.

HOPE Blog

The Hope Blog is a place of sharing and a place of action.

We encourage LDS women to share their personal experiences—successes and challenges—with church, faith, priesthood, patriarchy, womanhood, and feminism in a spirit of trust, openness, and faith.

We also encourage LDS women to promote action toward change by sharing stories of hope.  These can be best practices in creating local change or hopeful possibilities for changes in the future.

We intend this to be a place of non-judgment and inspiration.  We intend to focus on what is and what could be the best in LDS church.  We hope this will be a place where participants are striving for solutions that allow all to maintain faith and hope.

We realize these are tender topics and we encourage women to write about their discouraging and painful moments around these topics as well encouraging and hopeful moments.  We want to hear stories of things that feel broken and stories of things that feel whole.  Readers are encouraged to share ideas about how to make changes in our lives, our homes, and in our local congregations.

Please submit experiences and ideas to HOPEideas@ldswave.org and be respectful of others’ experiences in your correspondence.